Happy Engagement Season

(This is my 2nd time writing this, it got deleted before it posted earlier :-( )

Hello Gorgeous!

Congratulations on your new engagement!  So many emotions and so much excitement!  Try to enjoy this time as much as possible.  It is so easy to get caught up in everything and the next thing you know, you are fighting with your fiance' and both of you are stressed out to the max.  Don't let this happen to you.  Delegate responsibilities so that you have time to focus on building an amazing marriage with your soon to be husband, and not just creating an amazing wedding.  The marriage is what is important; it's the whole reason for the wedding.

This delegate that you choose should be able to take the thousands of possibilities and figure out what you are truly looking for and be able to give you just a small handful of choices to choose from.  That way things don't seem overwhelming.  This person should also be able to help you figure out the most important aspects of your wedding to you and then create a budget based on your desires.  Just because you have set budget, doesn't mean that you can't get some of what you really want.  It is all about prioritizing.  

This delegate should be an advocate for you and go to bat with other vendors when necessary to make sure that you get what you have paid for or what was communicated to you.  This person will allow you to sip Mimosas with your new Mother-in-law, mom, and bridesmaids as you are getting pampered and relaxing, while they are ensuring proper set up and working out all of the logistics on the day of.  This person will be there after the last guest has gone home with tired feet from tearing up the dance floor to make sure that everything gets cleaned up and put where it needs to go.  

I hope that I can be this delegate, advocate, and overseer for you and your family during your planning and wedding.  If not, I do hope that you can find someone that can be trusted with this amazing responsibility.

Again, congratulations beautiful, enjoy this special time.

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For the millionth time, I am back!

Hey 'all!

School is out for summer, finally.  This week is my first official week at home as a housewife.  I will use this term often because I adore it and wish I could be a housewife all year.  I'm terrible at house things and I desperately want to be good.  I believe that this is something that comes with practice.  And I don't get enough time to practice!  As always, Matt puts up with me and keeps his complaining to a minimum.  This summer I want to REALLY, REALLY get good at it and get my house in amazing working order so that come fall, I will be in a good routine and able to just maintain.  Pray for me y'all!  I don't know how this getting back into blogging is going to work out but bare with me and we shall see!  Now for today's real post!


Saving Money Isn't Always As Important As Saving Time


You would think that with being at home and all of the million projects that I have going on in my head and all of my Pinterest boards, I would find ways to save money in everything that I do or want to do.  I have a stack of wooden pallets in my backyard that are going to allow me to make crazy awesome things for a fraction of the cost of something else that is new.  I have a new garden that is going to make so many tomatoes that I am never going to have to buy another one for all season.  (BTW: the fruits of my labor won't even be ready until mid/late-July.)  Matt and I ARE trying to save money and I am creating a little "homestead" in our yard. BUT, some things are worth paying someone else to do!

We have decided to get someone else to cut our grass and probably more than likely, on a regular basis.  I'm home all day, I could do it.  But you know what, it is more trouble than it is worth to me.  We have a large ditch in the front and a ditch that goes down the entire side.  I fall (I'm too short to maneuver it) every time I attempt to cut either one and one of these days that lawn mower is going to mow me down.  Not worth it.  I've also acquired stupid allergies so cutting the grass would be no fun for my breathing!  Sure, Matt could do it when he gets home in the evenings but why?  After working all day long, sometimes in the heat or in a place that doesn't have A/C yet, the last thing he wants to come home and do is stand in the ditch with a lawn mower.  The weekends are either for weddings or for relaxing and having fun at the river.  Spending quality time with my husband when I didn't have as much time during the school year is worth a few dollars a week to me.  If I grocery shop at Aldi or get good deals at Kroger and cook at home, there is the money that we need to pay someone else to cut the grass instead of going out to eat.  We can also focus on that garden that we started that needs to be weeded instead of pushing the lawn.  It is at least something that we can both enjoy together and that is what is important!

Do yourself a favor, find one thing that you can pay someone else to do that will free up a few hours every week to spend with your family.  Or heck, try the barter system and see what you can exchange!  20 years from now, no one is going to remember how awesome you were to cut the grass every week.  They are going to remember the time that you spent doing things with them, making memories!

Love is Not Selfish

So of course, I do things on my own time... 


LOVE IS NOT SELFISH

I began reading Love is Not Selfish last week and I finished reading it today.  Something that really stood out to me was this... "One ironic aspect of selfishness is that even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive an award.  If you do even a good thing to deceitfully manipulate your husband or wife, you are still being selfish."

WHOA!  How often do we do something to get praise or to get our spouse to do something that we want them to do?  Without realizing this, I struggled with this so much over the summer.  It started out innocent enough and then it caused me to have resentment.  I would clean the house or make something awesome to eat, not because I wanted to do something nice, I wanted praise.  I wanted Matt to be like wow, my wife is awesome!  I then thought if I did this or that, then he would want to do this or that for me.  When that didn't happen, I began hating what I was doing for him.  It wasn't the payoff I was expecting or had worked hard for.  My heart was in the wrong place.

The dare for today was to buy something nice for your spouse to show you were thinking about them.  I cheated on this one, I got Matt something last week.  I bought him a Qalo ring and it came in last week.  It is a silicone ring so that he didn't get his real one caught on anything at work.  He has been asking for one for awhile.  What better way to show unselfish love than to buy a new "wedding ring", a symbol of our unending love!

Tomorrow is Love is Thoughtful.  Be thinking about this... until tomorrow!

Love is Kind

DAY 2 Love is Kind

The dare for today is "In addition to saying nothing negative, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness."

The passage says that patience is how love reacts to situations and kindness is an action; one is preventative and the other is proactive.  It is so interesting to hear this put this way.  I always tell my students that not just in physics but in life, for every action, there is a reaction.  How you react to things can make all the difference, but if you plant seeds of kindness to start with, it can be even more powerful.

I haven't really seen Matt today except for a few brief moments this morning before I ran out the door to go to work.  It is now after 9pm, hopefully he comes home soon!  I have had several interactions with him via, e-mail, text, and Facebook message, all have been pleasant, but I am unsure as to how to surprise him with kindness.  He actually just walked through the door and handed me a nice treat!  He was the one that has surprised me with kindness today.

I still have a little bit of time left before bed.  Maybe I will go make his lunch for tomorrow so we don't have to scramble to find something in the morning.  Showing kindness doesn't have to be a major production, sometimes its the little things that go a long way.

Final word, be kind, folks and have patience.  Continue to work on these on a daily basis and see how your world changes.

 

 

Love is Patient

I am sure that many of you have heard of "The Love Dare" by the Kendrick brothers.  I've attempted to do it several times, before and after Matt and I got married.  I have never been able to finish it or to get very far really.  2 weeks in and I crap out.  

On my path to being a better wife, I have decided to give it another go and actually make an effort to complete it but then more importantly, to keep the changes made over the next 40 days even after the "dare" is done.  Here goes nothing...


DAY 1 Love is Patient

The dare for today is to "demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all."  I have just read this this afternoon, but I believe that I have done well for today... so far.

The passage says that patience is not something that comes naturally to us, it's something that we have to work at having.  Often, we have patience with others but when it comes to our spouse, our patience is thin and our fuse is short.  Isn't it funny how the person that we love the most and that loves us the most gets the worst from us?  I am so guilty of this, just ask Matt.  Over the past week, I've been consciously trying to get better at this, but it is a human struggle that everyone faces, sometimes on a daily basis.

Final thought for the day.  Have patience with those that you love.  Give them some slack and allow them to be human.  If you catch yourself getting impatient, stop what you are doing and breathe.  Evaluate the situation with a calm head.  Is it really worth getting all worked up over, or will it pass by shortly, soon to be forgotten?

Show your significant other love by granting them patience.