Love is Not Selfish

So of course, I do things on my own time... 


I began reading Love is Not Selfish last week and I finished reading it today.  Something that really stood out to me was this... "One ironic aspect of selfishness is that even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive an award.  If you do even a good thing to deceitfully manipulate your husband or wife, you are still being selfish."

WHOA!  How often do we do something to get praise or to get our spouse to do something that we want them to do?  Without realizing this, I struggled with this so much over the summer.  It started out innocent enough and then it caused me to have resentment.  I would clean the house or make something awesome to eat, not because I wanted to do something nice, I wanted praise.  I wanted Matt to be like wow, my wife is awesome!  I then thought if I did this or that, then he would want to do this or that for me.  When that didn't happen, I began hating what I was doing for him.  It wasn't the payoff I was expecting or had worked hard for.  My heart was in the wrong place.

The dare for today was to buy something nice for your spouse to show you were thinking about them.  I cheated on this one, I got Matt something last week.  I bought him a Qalo ring and it came in last week.  It is a silicone ring so that he didn't get his real one caught on anything at work.  He has been asking for one for awhile.  What better way to show unselfish love than to buy a new "wedding ring", a symbol of our unending love!

Tomorrow is Love is Thoughtful.  Be thinking about this... until tomorrow!